Good morning everyone! I am writing from my home office this morning and have been up since 4 AM. The fire alarm batteries needed to be changed so I didn’t need my alarm clock this morning. Yeah!!
Actually, I feel wonderful despite getting up a few hours earlier and have jumped on a number of things already today. Maybe I will make some changes.
Speaking of changes, why do we feel this obsessive need to go 1000% into something new? In my health coaching course, we talk about setting too lofty goals. Most of us are way too aggressive and unrealistic with setting new endeavors and ultimately what happens is that we fizzle out which leaves us drained. There is actually a concept called the false-hope syndrome which labels this over-zealous approach to goal setting. Furthermore, we setup ourselves for failures by underestimating how long and how much effort something will take. This is called the planning fallacy. Its great to have enthusiasm, but to make an impact it needs some structure.
I think most people deal with some degree of this and for me this has always been an issue. I have gotten much better with this myself, but I still have to keep this contained. Typically it has gone like this for me: Have a wild thought>Visualize the act>Go 1000% toward it>Road Block>Frustration>Stoppage
The main reason for this evolution is that I didnt always apply the SMART approach to goals. When you break down your goals this way it forces you to define them in such a way to promotes success.
S – Specific – Goals must be specific. (i.e I will accomplish this task by 7/1 or I want to finish this entire course by such and such a date)
M – Measurable – In order to see progress, we need to be able to measure them (Two workouts a week, I will use healthy cooking oils ½ of the time this week, etc)
A – Attainable – This must be a realistic goal and something that can be achieved. A lot of what holds us back is our lack of faith that we can accomplish something. When we prove we can do something, our self-efficacy improves which is the key to long lasting behavior change. The real key here is to be able to motivate yourself and rely on your own internal processes to motivate yourself to do something rather and external motivator.
R – Relevant – Purpose is everything and when we are not clear on what we want and why we want it, the goal loses steam. Define goals that are totally relevant for you
T – Time Bound – This one is kind of tricky because we often don’t know how long something will take, but in order to be successful you will want to set a time line on when you want to achieve something
Sounds simple right? Not so fast my friend! We ALL have issues with moving forward on things, but to feel fulfilled in life we have to challenge ourselves. Don’t get in the trap though of setting goals that are out of scope of the SMART approach or another similar convention. You may bounce around a bit, but when you apply some methodology, your goals can and will become a reality.
Hope you find this useful! I know full well how difficult implementing lasting change can be, but I have found quite a bit of success using these methods. I would love to help you, just shoot us an email at firstname.lastname@example.org or our contact page @ https://www.hearttohealthwellness.com/contact.html. Have a wonderful day!
Ian Sandage is a Nutritional Therapy Practitioner who speaks from the personal experience of someone with autoimmune disease and the highs and lows of a health journey